4.04.2013

Opposite Schedules

It has been some time now that Andrew and I have been living on opposite schedules. It has been since July that Andrew started working nights. This allows Andrew to go to school full-time and work (almost) full time. For anyone who has lived opposites schedules with their spouse, you know that it is hard to get use to. I know it won't be forever, but it will be for at least another year. The whole opposites schedule things works for our situations, but it is still hard to live with. I work during the day (out at noon), your normal Monday through Friday. Andrew works nights, which means he sleeps after I get home from work, when he isn't in class. We are lucky to get an hour of catching up time in every couple of days. Yes, he is mostly off on weekends, which will be nice with the upcoming spring and summer because we will be able to do some family things together. As for now, weekends are reserved for big plans that never seem to manifest. Not much more than sitting around gets accomplished. We are both exhausted and still in hibernation mode with the cold days and bitter nights. For some people (us) spring is not here yet. I just stumbled across a video I made of Amar'e and I playing outside in mid April last year. I do mention that it is unseasonably warm out, and you can see that because Amar'e is only wearing a onesie. I guess we expected it to be the same thing as last year. How fast we forget that we have seen snow storms in April drop three feet of snow. And last June it was cold enough out that we had to run the heat. So I guess we are just ready to not be in hibernations mode anymore. Andrew will be done school in December. Oh, did I mention he will be a licensed Massage Therapist? We are pretty excited about it. He eventually wants to get into Athletic training but he needs more schooling for that, and they don't offer the program anywhere near by. It doesn't hurt my feelings that we will be getting a change in scenery if he decides to pursue further education.....in fact this family needs that, but it won't be as easy as I would like it be (more on that later).

Another obstacle of opposite schedules in parenting in shifts. He has the morning shift and I have the rest of the day, which includes Damien arriving home from school mid-afternoon and dinner. This, at times, gets challenging. It is much easier to parent together, but once again the opposite schedule doesn't allow for this to happen. Andrew already pulls off being up for 30 hours or so straight at the beginning of the each week, so sacrificing any more time to being up over sleeping is out of the question. For now, we are going to keep on going on the track we are on. It's working for us besides that fact that we miss each other.  One of our goals for the summer is to go on one childless date. The last date we had was the night before our wedding so we are long overdue.  We know that this life transition is something we must do to get to the next step in life. I know it's going to be worth it.


Her version of dogsledding? (no dogs were injured in the making of this mess)

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8 comments:

  1. Wow! I had no idea your schedules were like that. I hope you get more than just one date with Andrew this summer. I wish I lived nearby. I would love to watch over your little ones, to give you a break! Good luck lady!

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    1. So sweet of you Sandra! Thanks so much! :) xoxo

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  2. I will gladly babysit for a night for you guys! Anytime you just let me know!

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  3. Sorry Krysta but I accidentally deleted your comment so I will repost it.

    Krysta said: "I don't know how it feels because we do have enough time to spend together. But this is not exactly good cause we have no money. I feel that our life is gonna be like yours pretty soon and I'll be in need of some advise."

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    1. Advice would be to make it a point to sit down with each other at least once a week to cook, eat, and do something as a family. This will help you have something to look forward to and it will help keep the connection alive. :)

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  4. That's ok! I accidentaly delete my own comments all the time :)

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